Facilitators accept responsibility for moving through the agenda in the allotted time, guiding the process, and suggesting alternate or additional techniques. In this sense, they do lead the group. However, they do not give their personal opinions nor do they attempt to direct the content of the discussion. If they want to participate, they must clearly relinquish the role and speak as an individual. During a meeting, individuals are responsible for expressing their own concerns and thoughts. Facilitators, on the other hand, are responsible for addressing the needs of the group. They need to be aware of the Group Dynamics and constantly evaluate whether the discussion is flowing well. There may be a need for a change in the discussion technique. They need to be diligent about the fair distribution of attention, being sure to limit those who are speaking often and offering opportunities to those who are not speaking much or at all. It follows that one person cannot simultaneously give attention to the needs of the group and think about a personal response to a given situation. Also, it is not appropriate for the Facilitator to give a particular point of view or dominate the discussion. This does not build trust, especially in those who do not agree with the Facilitator.
Contributors: C.T. Butler, Amy Rothstein
Recommended Books: On Conflict on Consensus
That first plan our team developed took us a year to create since then we continue to do research and development and seek out the best of the best information that is as relevant and up-to-date as we can deliver. If you are on a later Phase and find yourself back on a earlier Phase it is due to our team finding new information that will only add value to your knowledge base and make you more effective in the work you do. This is not punishment in anyway. We are here to serve YOU and your most pressing needs and we do so by providing you the best information, tools and training currently available.
We have seen amazing things happen to those who progress through the phases and we feel that speaks as testimony to the efficacy of the principles and the systems we propose herein — people report all kinds of successes in their personal life from no longer having feelings of suicide, to becoming known as a leader in their region, finding people they identify with and consider their "family" or "tribe" or seeing how their social change work impacts others in a positive way.
And when you follow through Your Action Plan, there will be nothing stopping you from getting results like these yourself.
2. Trust and believe, trust the process and take action.
3. When going through the phases keep in mind the question to ask yourself is NOT "Does this pertain to me?" the question is instead "How does this pertain to me?"
4. Rinse and repeat once you have gone through the phases go through them again from time to time to refresh and see things with a new perspective. (Check back often to see if there have been updates due to new research as well!)
5. Celebrate all wins, big or small.
6. If you miss one day, just pick yourself up and continue the next day.
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Big ideas can be intimidating, but even our biggest and most daunting goals can be achieved if we simply break it up into bite-sized chunks.
The most fundamental of all problems is how to grow wisely and how to use the resources we have to grow quickly and smartly. We must take this one step at a time, and each step no matter how boring or difficult it may seem is fundamental and necessary to our real success. Each of these phases might be compared to growing a crop. We have to till soil, plant seed, water and weed, harvest, organize, store and even make recipes and feed each other and the world with the crop. So each of those levels aforementioned could be broken down into sub levels, where we work in accordance with the natural forces of sociology and psychology and economics in order to bring up a crop being an achievement of an end solution or goal. This portion of the website maps out the path you need to take depending on the direction you chose. Like a guidebook, this section of the website we call Your Action Plan describes the milestones and choices necessary to take on each unique user's path. You will learn where the traps and snags are, as well as where the well-trodden and proven paths can be found. You will find firsthand stories told by others who have taken the journey before you and be able to learn from their missteps. As well as discover the methods they have found that work for them.
Margaret Mead said, "It is an almost universal need to have someone who wonders where you are when you don't come home at night." The anxiety of "what would happen...if I fall, if I have a heart attack in the middle of the night, if a stranger breaks in, if...if....." These are worries that some notice overtly, for others they are pushed away. Some research indicates that when there is another person sleeping under the same roof, everyone sleeps better.Read more
With many tools it is important to let people finish what they are saying, or for everyone to get a chance to speak before you add something which was inspired by the things others said. And an important part of transparency work is saying how things others have said impact you, especially if they evoke strong feelings. Crosstalk is where you respond to another person's spoken sharing.
Suggestions for Crosstalk:
- If you are hurt or angry about something said, start your talk with asking if they are ready and willing to hear your feelings ( see: Withholds).
- Be concise and if possible specific
- Talk more about your feelings and less about what you think.
- Use sentences starting with "I..." rather than "You..."- This will help eliminate judgmental statements, which tend to raise defensiveness and are generally recommended to avoid.
- Crosstalk should be about things between you and the person you are responding to regarding things that they have just recently shared with the group.
The fishbowl is a special form of small group discussion. Several members representing differing points of view meet in an inner circle to discuss the issue while everyone else forms an outer circle and listens. At the end of a predetermined time, the whole group reconvenes and evaluates the fishbowl discussion. An interesting variation: first, put all the men in the fishbowl, then all the women, and they discuss the same topics.Read more