With many tools it is important to let people finish what they are saying, or for everyone to get a chance to speak before you add something which was inspired by the things others said. And an important part of transparency work is saying how things others have said impact you, especially if they evoke strong feelings. Crosstalk is where you respond to another person's spoken sharing.
Suggestions for Crosstalk:
- If you are hurt or angry about something said, start your talk with asking if they are ready and willing to hear your feelings ( see: Withholds).
- Be concise and if possible specific
- Talk more about your feelings and less about what you think.
- Use sentences starting with "I..." rather than "You..."- This will help eliminate judgmental statements, which tend to raise defensiveness and are generally recommended to avoid.
- Crosstalk should be about things between you and the person you are responding to regarding things that they have just recently shared with the group.
Sources: Transparency Tools & Transparency Groups Fingerbook
Contributor: Paxus Calta-Star
Recommended Reading: Transparency Tools & Transparency Groups Fingerbook
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